For couples
You both know the argument by heart.
Most couples who come here are not short on effort or insight. You can each explain the loop you fall into. You may have read the books, tried the tools, sat through therapy. And the moment still takes you both somewhere neither of you wants to go.
We work with that moment, as it happens, with the parts of each of you that show up inside it: the one that pushes for resolution, the one that goes quiet, the one that braces before a word is said.
This work tends to fit if any of this sounds familiar
- One of you moves toward to resolve it; the other needs space first. Both of you end up feeling alone.
- The conversation is over before it starts, because you both already know how it goes.
- You are kind and organized together, and still can't reach each other underneath the logistics.
- Something ruptured, you both want to repair it, and neither of you knows how to start.
You do not need to arrive agreeing about what the problem is. Most couples don't.
The container
One shared 24 hours, for the two of you.
24 hours
1,440 shared minutes
$7,000
in full or three equal payments
Joint and solo
both drawn from the same hours
Joint sessions are where we work with what happens between you: the loop, the timing, the moment one of you leaves the room inside. Individual sessions give each of you room to meet what you carry into it without managing your partner's reaction at the same time.
Both come out of the same shared container. An hour together counts as one hour, not two. We agree together on how to balance joint and individual time, and we can adjust it as the work reveals what it needs.
Time is counted by the minutes we actually use. We schedule one hour and I reserve a second hour afterward, so there is room to continue if that feels right to all of us. Continuing is always a shared decision, either of you can ask for a firm ending time, and reserved time we don't use does not count.
No sides, no secrets you didn't agree to
Working with both of you means I am not building a case for either of you. My attention goes to the pattern and to the parts inside it, which is usually a relief for whichever of you has been carrying the role of the problem.
Before we begin, we agree out loud on what happens with individual sessions: what stays private, what gets brought back into joint time, and how. You both know the terms before anyone says anything tender.
Nothing opens without consent. Either of you can slow us down, name that something is too much today, or ask to stop. That isn't a detour from the work; it is the work.
In the room
What a couples session can look like
We start with what is alive that day, often a moment from the week that went sideways. I slow it down and we look at what happened inside each of you, in real time, rather than relitigating who was right.
I will sometimes interrupt the story to ask what is happening right now. I may name a shift in a voice, a pace, a posture, and ask whether it fits. You can correct me. We use what is true for you, not what sounds right to me.
We don't rush the ending. Toward the close, I help each of you check in with the parts that showed up, thank them, and notice whether anything else needs attention before you leave. We come back gently with a few breaths, then pause so each of you can name what you're taking with you. Nobody leaves flooded or mid-sentence.
Sessions happen by voice or video, cameras on or off, together in one room or from two different ones.
Three-day couples immersions
Some couples are at an inflection point where an hour a week isn't the right shape. An immersion gives three days of dedicated space to slow down, follow a pattern all the way through, and practice new ways of connecting without stopping at the moment it gets real.
Three days does not mean 24 hours of sessions, and an immersion is not automatically part of a container. We'll talk through fit, structure, pricing, and how it relates to ongoing sessions during our first conversation.
From the work
What couples noticed
Start with a conversation
A free 20-minute conversation, with one or both of you. We'll talk about what keeps happening and whether this is the right container for the two of you.
Working on your own? See the individual container.